small upgrade on the server side did the trick.
I figured that if it was working locally it should work remotely, and it did when updating the server versions.
TY for your replay, would try that...

a new problem arises...
when tring to connect to an actual server, I get this error:
Socket failure for connection to www.yourserver.com.
FTPS116: FlashVideo Status : (NetConnection.Connect.Faile...

TY!
worked like a charm... (of course, I am feeling dumb...)

I have searched the forum before posing, found similar thing with 2.0, here it's about 3.0.
I have N95, firmware version 30.0.0.15.
any flash lite application I wrote is not connecting. everything...